Why You Are Not Getting What You Want

by sol ballard

Why oh why do some people just seem to get everything they want while others can’t even get one tiny little part of their dream to come true?

Let me draw you a picture. Lets say you invite me over to your home, an hour later I want something to eat and like a good host you go into your kitchen to put something together for me.

You ask me what I want.

I tell you I want something absolutely delicious.

Okay… well that told you nothing, so you ask me to be more specific.

I tell you that I don’t really care what you give me as long as it’s good.

You open the fridge and realize you don’t even know what I like or what I don’t like. So you ask me.

I tell you that I haven’t even given my taste preference much thought.

Now you are getting a little annoyed with me and realize you aren’t getting anywhere. So what do you do? You grab the first thing you see in the fridge, make a snack out of it, and set it in front of me.

I look at it in disgust. That is NOT what I wanted. I said I wanted something delicious.

You make something else.

Nope! I didn’t want that either.

Now you are just about to lose it, not only can I not tell you what I want but I am also being picky about what you are giving me. You then turn to me and tell that until I can be specific about my likes and dislikes, you can’t really get me a snack. You tell me that you want to help me but I am making it nearly impossible.

Now we are both unhappy.

Sometimes we aren’t getting what we want because we have zero clarity about what we want. We know we want a good life and that we want to live happily ever after but we have no idea what that looks like.

It also makes it harder for the Universe to deliver what we want if it has no idea what you want.

If you are asking if you have a set concrete blueprint for what the rest of your life is going to look like for the rest of you life, the answer would be no, you don’t have to.

However, it is important to know what matters to you, what you love, what you hate, what your values are, so that you can build on these things and be happy.

The Perfect Day exercise I discussed a few posts ago (if you haven’t read it, read it next) is great because it encourages you to get crystal clear about what you want.

I’m not saying that you need to stick to your vision, heck, you are entitled to change your mind whenever you like, I am just saying knowing what you want will get you further than just taking whatever life hands you.

Take sometime to write down what you desire in your life every day.

Ok this post made me hungry… I am going grab a snack now.

Love,

Sol

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